Money can often cause problems in relationships, especially when one partner
has a lot more than the other.This happened to Darren soon after he got married.
As a young man with much less money than his wife’s family, he found himself
in an awkward and embarrassing situation that led to a big emotional reaction.
Darren contacted us for advice.: My wife’s family is very wealthy while I’m a
regular employee who lives from paycheck to paycheck, so for our wedding,
it was natural that her dad covered everything.
When we got on the plane for our honeymoon, she sat first class, and I realized
my ticket was economy. She shrugged and said, “This sucks baby, but Dad says he’s
not your money machine.” Furious, I left her on the plane. Hours later, I get the most horrific call from her dad.
I couldn’t believe it when he said, “I gave you a dream wedding and a dream honeymoon
and didn’t ask you for a dime. Is this how you treat my daughter? He added, “My daughter
is used to a certain lifestyle, and I’m going to keep giving her that, but you need to understand that I will not provide for you too!”
His words only made me more furious. I told him that I cannot accept being humiliated just
because I am not rich like them and hung up on him. My wife tried to convince me to go on
the honeymoon on the next flight, but when I refused, she decided to come back home so we can talk. Am I wrong to react this way?Yours, Darren